ARE YOU A HAPPY PERSON?

Spring arrived with a warm sunshine, evening rains and welcoming smiles. Popping blossoms and sprouts of green grass make us happy. For some of us, the first drifting snowflakes excite us. This is temporary happiness. Deep down are you truly a happy person?  The following 15 tips will help gauge whether or not you are truly a happy person.

  1. LOVE vs. FEAR. Happy people fear less and love a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.
  2. ACCEPTANCE vs. RESISTANCE.  Happy people understand that you can’t change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence. When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it, knowing that this will make the situation even worse. They focus on the positive rather than the negative.
  3. FORGIVENESS vs. UNFORGIVENESS. Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold onto anger. They choose to forgive and forget, understanding that forgiveness is a gift they give to themselves first and foremost.
  4. TRUST vs. DOUBT. They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. No matter if they talk to the cleaning lady or the CEO of a multi-billion dollar company, somehow they always seem to make the person they are interacting with feel like there is something unique and special about them.
  5. MEANING vs. AMBITION. They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so.
  6. PRAISING vs. CRITICIZING.  Happy people would probably agree with Carl Jung’s theory on resistance: “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” They don’t criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, but rather, every time the behavior is present, even if it’s not that often, they know that by praising the person and the behavior, they will actually reinforced the positive behavior.
  7. CHALLENGES vs. PROBLEMS. Happy people will see problems as challenges, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lays many opportunities that will allow them to expand and to grow.
  8. SELFLESSNESS vs. SELFISHNESS.  They do what they do not for themselves, but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and happiness in the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy.
  9. ABUNDANCE vs. LACK/POVERTY. They have an abundant mindset living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.
  10.  DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. These people don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.
  11.  KINDNESS vs. CRUELTY. They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.
  12.  GRATITUDE vs. INGRATITUDE. No matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, they have this capacity of seeing beauty where most of us would only see ugliness, opportunities, where most of us would only see struggles, abundance where most of us would only see lack and they express their gratitude for them all.
  13.  PRESENCE/ENGAGEMENT vs. DISENGAGEMENT. They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still having big dreams about the future.
  14.  POSITIVITY vs. NEGATIVITY. No matter what happens to them they always seem to keep a positive perspective on everything and by doing so, they tend to irritate a lot of negative and “realistic” people.
  15.  TAKING RESPONSIBILITY vs. BLAMING.  They take full ownership over their lives and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you choose to blame some outside forces for whatever it is that happens to you, you are in fact giving all your power away. They choose to keep the power for themselves and taking responsibilities for everything that happens to them.

 

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2 Responses to “ARE YOU A HAPPY PERSON?”

  1. Joy Norenberg says:

    Loved the 15 categories for a happy person. Now I have to be sure I use them. Kathi, what a great writer you are. You
    are a treasured friend as well.

  2. WOW, you covered the waterfront–great post!

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